132, How to Stop Overthinking: Tips for Bold Decision-Making

Molly Cahill 0:00

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Kate Kordsmeier 0:59

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Hey, hey, hey, Kate back with another quickie solo episode. Today we are talking about the miserable maybe? Have you ever heard of this term, the miserable maybe, even if it's new to you, I guarantee you, you've spent a good chunk of your life here because we all have as Brooke Castillo from The Life Coach School describes it. The miserable maybe is where we hide in an attempt to avoid adversity. It's the land of indecision of overthinking of procrastination, and yes of misery. Because what is worse than being in limbo? And being half in and half out of something and feeling like you just don't know what to do? Should I launch this course? Or that course? Should I invest in coaching? Or not? Should I Get Divorced? Or stick it out? Should I sell my house or add on? Should I or shouldn't I? Whatever decision you're trying to make, if you've been thinking about what to do for what feels like forever and telling yourself you don't know, then you are choosing to live in the land of miserable maybe. And let me gently remind you not to making a decision is making a decision. inaction is a form of action. So as a chronic over analyzer and very slow decision maker, I can personally attest just how horrible it feels to live in maybe. So this is my attempt to support anyone who has been living in limbo to get off that uncomfortable fence and just make a damn decision already. Even if it's a no, it's okay. Truly just make it for yourself, even if it's a yes. And that's maybe what you're afraid of. It's okay, truly just make it for yourself. So something that's helped me when I am stuck and just can't figure out what to do is a thought that I want to offer to you all what if whatever choice you decide is the right choice, because you made it. Let me say that again? What if whatever choice you decide is the right choice, simply because you made it. Now what I mean is there is no right or wrong, there is only reality. And while reality may be an acquired taste, thank you, Matthew Perry for that, Jim have a quote. It is what it is. And reality is not good or bad, right or wrong. It's our thoughts about reality that make it so. So a circumstance, a situation is totally neutral. It's only our thoughts about that circumstance about

out that reality that make it good or bad, right or wrong. So for example, it has been raining in Atlanta for the past week non stop. And I want to argue with reality. I want to scream stop raining. It's so gloomy. It shouldn't be raining. But guess what? It is raining. And so it should be. If it wasn't supposed to be raining, it wouldn't be raining. Right? My resistance is what makes me feel bad about it. But the rain itself is totally neutral. And my brain could just as easily make it a good thing. What if I thought, dang, I love the rain. It's so cozy. Look at Mother Nature, just showing off and showering all the plants with nourishment. This is exactly what the world needs more of. Wow. Now all of a sudden, the rain is a beautiful thing. But nothing changed externally. Only my thoughts changed. So what thoughts do you have about investing in your business? For example, or in yourself? What thoughts do you have about taking risks about betting on yourself? Because all of those are neutral circumstances. But your thoughts about them? are what make them feel exciting or scary? Your thoughts about yourself? Or what make them feel risky or necessary? And then question your thoughts. Get curious, can you be truly curious? No judgment, no shame. Just neutrally curious and observer of your thoughts? Oh, that's interesting. Kate is thinking XYZ. And then question those thoughts? Does that thinking serve you? Is that thought Absolutely. Undeniably true? Does having that thought make you feel good or bad? does it inspire you to take aligned action? Or does it keep you from doing anything at all? Does that lead you to the result you crave? Who would you be without that thought? What is the opposite of that thought? And is that as true or truer than the original thought?

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So if you're ready to vacate the land of miserable, maybe whatever it is that your decision you're trying to make, I encourage you to do some of these thought exercises. And remember, whatever choice you make is the right one because you made it because it happened because it's reality. And whatever reality is, is what is supposed to be if you'd like some support examining these thoughts, if you need some help, looking at your mind and figuring out how to really retrain your brain and choose thoughts on purpose, this is exactly what we help our clients do both inside our Business Mastermind the Success with Soul incubator and our life coaching subscription, which is the Success with Soul monthly membership. Remember, you don't have to be an entrepreneur, a coach, consultant, business owner, anything to be in the membership it is for all women, whether you're a corporate executive, a stay at home mom, an employee, a business owner, or just a woman who feels like she has too much on her plate. Inside this membership. We teach women how to tap into their feminine energy, balance it with the masculine energy of our culture, and then retrain their brain and build a life they're excited about again. So if you're ready for a life that you love, where what's most important to you has plenty of dedicated time and there's no urgency or hustle if you're ready to set and achieve your goals without a whole lot of drama.

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